One of the biggest reasons people fall off the wagon and fail with a bodybuilding program is because of short-term thinking. They imagine themselves with six pack abs and get disappointed when they don't see results after a couple weeks.
The reality is that changing your body is a long-term endeavor. Long-term thinking is crucial to success.
Begin By Setting Long-Term Goals
Begin your journey by setting long-term goals. Long-term goals might include:
"I want to have six pack abs."
"I want to lose 35 lbs."
"I want to have a 9% body fat percentage."
"I want to be able to bench 200 lbs."
Whatever your goals are, write them down. Make sure you have at least one goal that's quantifiable. For instance, "six pack abs" is not a quantifiable goal, because not everyone agrees on how defined abs need to be in order to count as six packs.
On the other hand, a 9% body fat percentage is quantifiable and measurable. Having goals like "look fit" or "have six pack abs" are great for personal motivation, but poor for measuring progress. So make sure you have at least one quantifiable goal.
Break Your Goals Down by Quarter and Month
Next, set your goals for the next three months and for the next month.
For instance, let's say you're at 17% body fat right now and you want to get down to 9% in a year. Your goal for 3 months is to get down to 15%.
Your one month goal then might be to change your diet and to get to the gym five days a week. You can set a body fat percentage goal for one month as well, though you may not see much change in just one month.
Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
One of the most destructive behaviors you could have is comparing yourself to others. If you're comparing your body or your results to other people at the gym, you're setting yourself up for failure.
Most of the guys who see who have ripped bodies have been working out a lot longer than you. Nobody is born with the perfect body. It's something you have to work hard at, consistently over time in order to shape.
Compare yourself only against yourself. Compare yourself against where you came from and where you want to go. Keep a journal and watch your strength increase over time and body fat decrease over time. Don't look at others.
Bodybuilding is a long-term endeavor, not a short-term quest. Set long-term goals, take it step by step and stay motivated. It takes time, but when you do finally reach your goals it'll feel incredible.